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Every woman is dying to know…

The four things every woman wants to know…

“Are you thinking about me?”

“What are you thinking about me?”

“Is it good, positive, amazing… bad!?!?!”

“Do you really love me…”

They are just dying to know… So that they can know…

“You are thinking about them all the time…”

“You love every detail about them…”

“They are captivating and amazing in every way possible…”

“Of course you love them, permanently, now and forever…”

How couldn’t you… What’s not to love…?

❤️, Jamry

Parenting in Las Vegas

Tinder, Tumblr, EDC, Revenge Porn, Purp, Lean, DTF, “Send Nudes”, Burning Man, Furries, MS13, PUBG, Fortnite, ISIS… TI putting the First Lady as a stripper in the White House for his rap video. America today is just one giant Las Vegas. Parenting in Las Vegas takes on a whole new meaning for parenting. Luckily for me… I am not that old and I know exactly what it is like to grow up today. The point is, your kids are their own sentient beings… and the job of a parent is simply to be the child’s guru into adulthood… that moment when the child is eye to eye in the same world as the parent… as such, it is a simple matter of teaching your kids to navigate the world the same way you did, they will come to the same trials and tribulations that you did… All you can do is guide them through how to navigate those moments the same way you did… or if you feel like you navigated poorly, how to succeed where you failed… Give them something to aim for… The key is to actually have these conversations with your children and just be normal with them… Don’t create a weird wall of separation because you are the parent… NEWS FLASH… your kids are stuck in Las Vegas just like you are… you and they are in the same boat together now, teach them how to handle it the same way you do…❤️, Jamry

Father, Father

I will tell you one of the most profound lessons I have ever learned. You can not expect someone to give to you… what they themselves have not been given. I was told this in regard to my relationship with my Father years ago by a friend. Most parents want to do their best for their kids… however, there seems to be a limitation in that perspective… they can’t give you what they don’t have. They can’t give you compliments, affirmation, attention, affection, encouragement… If they were never given that themselves… they can’t say they are proud of you if their own Father has never told them either… They can’t tell you they delight in you, they love watching you grow up, they love watching you do anything at all, that you are their absolute treasure… Daughter or Son, they both crave to hear it… It is hard to verbalize on its own, let alone if no one has ever done that for them all these years… When you come to understand this, it will free you… Although it may still hurt that your needs may not have been met, you will at least understand your parents gave you what they could… They may have an emotional limitation in giving you the desires of your heart… If they never knew that their Dad was proud of them, they will have a hard task giving that affirmation to you since they don’t have that first hand experience to repeat for you… They can’t pass on a blessing that they were never blessed with… My Father told me years ago he was proud of me, I had to sit down and ask him for it though… I got my needs met in that regard… Our relationship got better after that… Coming to this realization will free you… You can now have lower expectations for your parents, they did their best with the limitations they were handed… They made the best lemonade they could… You are free now to have higher expectations for yourself, you can now aspire to new heights they weren’t able to reach… You can be the Father that they weren’t able to be, while at the same time respecting them as your own Father… They did their best, even if it doesn’t seem like much or maybe they gave you a whole lot… but, it wasn’t what you actually needed…  that is OK… You can respect the office and title of Father… No matter who your Dad was… Good, Bad, or Ugly… You can aspire to fill those shoes just fine… It is a high calling, your parents did their best… You can aspire to build on the backs of giants that went before you… They can be your foundation… you can aspire to give your kids more… You can change generational patterns… You can be a change agent for the better…  You want to fix America, this is the cure… ❤️, Jamry

The Perfect Husband

It is the job of a husband to present his wife unto himself perfected, not to expect her to fix herself up on her own. It is his job, not her all alone, to present her to himself the way he wants, he is to help her daily be everything she is meant to be, she is not to draw it up from within herself and her own strength. He is to expend time, energy, and effort into his wife… He is to pour his life into hers… She is not to just wake up looking and acting perfect, it is his job to help her be that… She is to become more physically and emotionally attractive day in and day out, never ending… This is his job, not just her task… His love and care should make her more attractive… His love should make her a flourishing and glowing person… His job… His reward for all of his hard work, is her… When he is disappointed in her, it may not be his fault… but, it is his responsibility… If it is his fault, he should definitely work on it… he needs to know what to do, not her… he is to know how to help her, she is not to know how to fix herself on her own… he should know her better than she knows herself… he is to know everything about her down to the tiniest detail and nuance… Every reaction, every movement, every code language being used to dance around an issue… He is to get a Master’s degree in her… He should study her harder than any textbook… She is the only test he needs to stay up all night studying… His focus is on her… All of his soul, all of his strength, all of his thoughts… Pointed at her… Laser focused on her, never letting go, never glancing away, full frontal attention… It feels good just talking about it… ❤️, Jamry

Here Comes The Groom

Did you know that here comes the bride was originally here comes the groom? The only reason they had the bride version is because people use to actually rob the bride in the middle of coming down the aisle since she had an expensive gown and jewelry on… so they brought her out quickly.  It is actually suppose to be here comes the groom, the man is the hero of the story. Research Jewish Wedding customs which the Bible describes. “Behold, the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!” The wedding party begins when the bridegroom shows up to claim his bride, not the other way around. He is not standing around waiting in anticipation for her. She is actually waiting around daily in anticipation of her husband showing up to come get her. To rescue her, to sweep her off her feet, to take her away from the pain and welcome her into his world. A whoolllle neeeewww worrllllddd… Plus, for those of you who didn’t know… “Here Comes The Bride” was written by Wagner, who was Hitler’s inspiration for Nazi Germany. Just saying… Food for thought when you walk down the aisle… ❤️, Jamry

Black Widows

M. Scott Peck teaches us about a certain type of woman. A black widow. She will pull you into her relationship web, usually a child or a lover. She will keep them there and drain the life out of them, she will gossip to the child about their own father… She will ask inappropriate questions to her own children about their dating life in order to vicariously live it out herself… This is real… I wish I made this up…  You can read all about it in his book “The People of The Lie”. ❤️, Jamry

Talk Therapy

What Beck teaches us is profound and simple. The most powerful antidote may simply be… talking to each other. “Talk Therapy” “Chimney Sweeping” “Cleaning Out The Closets”… Its therapeutic, it brings Catharsis… It feels good… Its fun… Its intimate… Talk long, talk deep, talk about it all, hold nothing back… It is the best experience, you will feel fully alive…  ❤️, Jamry